I wrote this post last year on an old blog but I wanted to share it here as well. I hope it reaches those who need it.
October is always an interesting month for me. I love it because it’s Fall. Fall has become one of my favorite seasons because it’s the season where I started to feel free after my divorce. It was the season I had found myself again, I had established a strong relationship with God, and was actually enjoying life for the first time in a long time.
It’s also National Domestic Violence Awareness month. Domestic Violence is defined as “the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another. It includes physical violence, sexual violence, psychological violence, and emotional abuse. The frequency and severity of domestic violence can vary dramatically; however, the one constant component of domestic violence is one partner’s consistent efforts to maintain power and control over the other.”
I survived an extremely verbally/emotionally & at times physically abusive marriage. My situation was mostly verbal/emotional abuse. It got physical on 2 seperate occasions & the last of the 2 was bad enough for me to know it was time to go. Not everyone has the strength to walk away. I thank God he gave me the strength and supportive family/friends to help me leave.
I had no & I mean NO intentions of blogging about this topic today. Quite frankly because sometimes I get sick of my story. Some days I feel like whatever it happened it’s over lets move on. There’s a quote that says “everyone has a chapter they wouldn’t read out loud”. That’s what it is for me. That “ugly chapter”.
But then I remember my story isn’t just for me. It’s for the women who haven’t made it out yet, it’s for the women who are still struggling, it’s for the women who are still crying themselves to sleep at night trying to find a way out. My story was never meant for just me it was meant to help those women too.
A family member sent me a text this morning that reminded me of my strentgh, that reminded me that it was by the grace of God that I got out, and most importantly it reminded me that I have to continue to share my story to be a voice for those who are still struggling. To those women I say there is hope, there is life after abuse, & you can survive!
Sometimes life happens & we are faced with the unexpected Matthew 5:44-45 Tells us:
” 44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45 that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.”
We live in a fallen world but there is hope. Remember & hold this scripture close to your heart:
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
You will survive!
If you know someone struggling with domestic violence please help them in whatever way you can. Support is key in these situations. They can call the domestic violence hotline 24/7 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).