In honor of domestic violence awareness month I’m writing my yearly post. This is my third year doing this. Every year I try to bring awareness to the cause because it’s something I experienced in my own life. Not only that but I want other women out there who have been in a toxic relationships or who are currently in one to know there is hope, there is a light at the end of the tunnel and those nights of crying yourself to sleep won’t last always.
At first I wasn’t sure what to say this year. I’ve shared my story in previous posts so I didn’t want to go over that again. I knew I wanted to say something inspiring, encouraging but this year I lacked the words until today.
Recently I have heard other women’s experiences of domestic violence and to be honest it is a bit jarring how commmon it really is. After thinking about my own experience and that of those around me the words came. Words someone said to me not long ago…..
“You tried to do the right thing with the wrong person”. I will never forget those words. I had recently filed for divorce and I was pregnant about to raise my daughter on my own. My caseworker at the time had ask me if I had help and I said no. She asked if my husband was involved I said no. Finally she said “You tried to do the right thing with the wrong person”. I just looked at her and nodded.
I was having to start over from the very bottom. And when I say the bottom I mean the bottom. I was too pregnant to work, in the middle of a divorce and the only thing I owned was a fairly new car that had been banged up by my husband at the time. So my car was worthless and I was broke and alone.
My caseworker was 100% right. I tied to do the right thing but life doesn’t always work out the way we plan it to. I say that to say this I know in my heart so many othe women have tried to do the right thing and it just didn’t turn out as expected. Forgive yourself it wasn’t your fault but I know sometimes we believe it is. Allow yourself the time and space you need to heal and most importantly use that setback as your fuel to set yourself up for the bright future you have ahead of you. You’re beautiful, you deserve the best and in due time you will love the life you’ve always dreamed of if you don’t give up!
It has taken some time but I’m in a good place living a blessed life. No, my life isn’t perfect but I’m happy with it and I’m happy with the loving, supportive friends and family who helped me get to this point. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. You are that light! Now get up dust yourself off & shine bright!
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Galatians 6:9 Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.